Haters and the jealous, are an inevitable part of life. No matter what you do, no matter how positively you impact the world, there will always be at least a small percent of the world that doesn’t like you. Regardless of what you do, some people who are jealous will try to hold you back and keep you down. Regardless of what you do, there are people out there who will try and cast you and your accomplishments in a negative light.
Some people will just make fun of you, some people will be actively mean and nasty to you, some people will try and try you down behind your back. However they operate, the jealous and haters can be a real energy drain… if you let them. Thankfully, you don’t need to let them affect you. Here’s how.
The first thing you need to do is figure out who they are. This can be easy when someone is actively and bluntly trying to hold you back. If someone is outright attacking you, they are obviously a hater. However, there are plenty of people who are close to us who count as haters because they are subtly negative and sabotaging. Sometimes these people speak about you behind your back and say negative things. Sometimes they hold you back with small comments made to look like “realistic” advice. It’s best to know when someone is really trying to help, and when someone is actually cutting your legs out from under you- subtlety or bluntly.
After identifying these people, it’s a good idea to see if they are right in their negativity. Sometimes you can be too sensitive and misinterpret realistic advice as negativity. Do some real soul searching to see if they are justified in their negativity. If they are, it’s a good idea to listen and try and incorporate the more constructive things into your plan. However, if you think about it and realize that they are not justified in what they are saying, it’s a good idea to reject these negative comments and thoughts, and instead replace them with positive thinking. Negative thoughts and comments may start small, but they often can grow large enough to cripple your endeavors if you let them. Don’t let them even start to grow.
A great way to not let the jealous friends and haters get to you is to try and disarm them. There are a number of ways to do this, though all these strategies come down to facing them outright. Sometimes people will detract from you because they are jealous, or because they feel left out. Attempting to enlist these people into your goals and plans is often enough to get them on your side. Knowing why you’re doing what you’re doing, and being able to articulate this why and have arguments against their arguments is often a good way to confront them. Acknowledging that you are working to change and that what you’re doing might seem unrealistic and silly is a good way to prove that you are still you- provided you are able to stay committed to your path, regardless of its seeming impossibility. Often at times haters close to us are just worried for us, and showing that you are realistic but committed can often get these people on your side.
Regardless of how you deal with haters, it’s important to understand that they are an inevitable part of any life. By acknowledging them and attempting to directly deal with them, you’ll be in a much better position to keep their negativity from bringing you down. And hey, sometimes those detractors can become your biggest supporters.